Avoid the Dating Nightmares!

Well minded people often tell us that there are plenty more fish in the sea when we break up with somebody, or if we are questioning a current relationship. That may be the case, but what are the odds of finding the perfect guy for you amongst the millions of men in the world? Logically, this might seem like an insurmountable challenge and when you start to remember those dating nightmares that you have endured, you might think it is in impossible task. Through an element of preparation though, you might find it is not as difficult as this after all.

Seeking out someone new and going through the process of exploration is in all reality a lot of fun, but can get quite wearing if you are unlucky enough to come up against one of those dating nightmares. It’s not possible to know in advance, unless these guys came with some kind of government health warning. However, the good news is that you can pretty much tell what he is made of after one encounter.

Unfortunately there are some guys who are very egocentric out there and only want to talk about themselves, what they are, where they have been and where they are going. This kind of one-sided relationship is not for you and you should pay close attention to whether he is actually listening to you when you are talking to him or whether he is just working out what he is going to say to you next as he bores you to death.

Avoid the guy who is on the rebound like the plague. All he’s doing is trying to attend to his own feelings and is not likely thinking much about yours. A guy who is on the rebound is one of the worst dating nightmares that you can encounter, as he is invariably trying to show you off as a trophy of war in front of his ex!

The organizational types are all very well, so long as they’re not obsessive-compulsive and unlikely to change. If you come across one of these dating nightmares, you should run the other way as quickly as you can, unless of course you really like the thought of being micromanaged and organized yourself. You will find that too much emphasis is placed on technicalities, meanings and philosophies and less emphasis on the pure fun of life.

We are taught from an early age not to be too judgmental and this is something that you always want to bear in mind. Do concentrate on picking up some basics about him when you first meet, his stability, his financial position and whether he sees you as a potentially equal dating partner. If he insisted you pay for dinner the first time that you meet, this might be a warning sign and is generally not regarded as very chivalrous. Freeloaders can represent one of the worst dating nightmares.

Are you looking for somebody to complement your personality or do opposites attract? The chances are that you like someone who has well-rounded interests and is likely to be fun to hang around with. If your man interest has a personality of a wet mop, you would be better off staying at home in front of the TV.

Life might seem like a roller coaster ride and your relationships even more so, but it should not be as difficult as that. Just be philosophical, avoid the dating nightmares and understand that false stats are just part of the game. You will get there in the end!

Writer Alan Bentley has a great deal of material to help you avoid dating nightmares. A fantastic resource is available at www.cracktheguycode.com.

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